SUICIDE: THE ULTIMATE REVENGE

When we hear about someone committing suicide, emotions of shock, curiosity, and finally sympathy arises. However, when we learn that someone has committed a murder, the emotions produced are shock, curiosity, hatred, and vengeance.

In my perception, there is not much difference between the act of committing suicide or a murder. In both cases, someone dies at the hand of somebody. Then, why do we discriminate against one out of the two?

No, I am not against sympathizing with the dead. My question is about the murderer. We want to punish the murderer just because he is alive but, sympathize with suicide victims because one is dead and there is nothing that could be done against him/her.

When a person commits suicide, we try to hunt for the reasons. However, when someone commits a murder, we do not bother about finding out the cause, except in the courtroom.  What if the person who committed suicide, murders his/her oppressor? Would we still sympathize with him/her in the same manner?

Of course not!

There are two major causes for taking such a step:

1. When one is extremely angry with someone else

Those who commit suicide are losers. They do not have the courage to fight against the wrongdoers. Hence, they resort to the route of ‘ultimate revenge’ thinking that after the suicide, everyone will sympathize and fight against the oppressor and for the dead. And, if nothing else, at least the oppressor will spend all their lives in guilt. One expects, that people will think and blame themselves for not being able to do enough for the suicide victim.

However, the cruel reality is that most of the time,  the oppressors remain unfazed as they never cared in the first place or apparently wished that their victim should die as soon as possible.

2. When one is helplessly angry with oneself

At times, one ends up making such huge mistakes in life that it seems there is no way to rectify them. One loses all hope and courage to face life. Such people take the ‘ultimate revenge’ from themselves.

However, who suffers as a result of this revenge in reality?

It is the families and the friends of the victims who suffer all through their lives. A dear one commits suicide and the family is left behind to figure out the reason. I have been observing and helping such people very closely. And, I must share that the suffering is unimaginable. It leads to lifelong depression and pain in disintegrated and displaced families. Top all of it with the social stigma. No one recovers from this shock. And, the remaining life becomes mere existence for all the people that are left behind.

The guilt within these people, especially in family members and close friends is unbearable and unfathomable. And, on top of that, there is no one in their lives from whom they can seek forgiveness.

So, my question is to all of those who have contemplated suicide even once in their lifetime - why do you wish to subject your loved ones to this ultimate revenge? Merely because they are unable to take out time for you? Or because they do not understand your thoughts and perceptions?

Do you think that their crime is so extreme that they deserve to suffer for the rest of their lives? In my opinion, it is better that you shout at them, fight with them for their attention, beg them for help, or distance yourself from their cruel psychological torture. But, Suicide is not the remedy you are seeking.

Come on! Play a fair game. Give them a chance to live, breathe, and to introspect. They may come around one day. But, do not wage this dirty one-sided war of suicide. It is a cowardly and cruel act.

Look around. Help is there, love is there. You just have to ask. Is it too tough?

Open your heart and accept life.

-Shalini Kamboj

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